In this series we are using the brave stories of domestic abuse survivors to bring hope to others currently facing abuse. Their stories are sadly not unique, the victims share them willingly to help others get the support they did.
Our latest case story is *Melanie’s (*not her real name). Melanie was in a relationship with her ex-husband for almost 30 years.
Lorraine, like many of our survivors had been in a relationship where she was subject to verbal, emotional and psychological abuse along with coercive and controlling behaviour, at times there was also physical violence.
This is Louise’s story. Louise* (*not her real name) finds herself in a position many find themselves in, having to live with an ex-partner until the shared property can be sold.
Anna experienced physical violence throughout the marriage, along with emotional and verbal abuse.
The National Centre for Domestic Violence has a team of dedicated specialist trainers located around the country. Our trainers provide free of charge, bespoke in-house training to the police and support agencies. All our trainers have hands on experience of supporting victims of domestic abuse and violence, in fact some of the trainers are retired police officers, who specialised in this area. As police officers, some of our trainers witnessed some deeply upsetting and heart-breaking cases, we asked them to reflect and share some of the experiences which impacted them most. Understandably some of the trainers have asked to remain anonymous also names have been changed to protect the victims in these cases.
Early on in my career I remember a lady reporting that she had been raped by her husband. At that time marital rape was not an offence in the UK, until a landmark case in 1991.
“Although a very long time ago now, there is one incident that stays with me. I was a young uniformed officer when we were called
“One case I will always recall involved a very young woman called Emma (she was a girl at the start of my involvement) who was
“As a uniform team inspector, one of my sergeants and a young officer (near the end of her probation) went to a report of a
Mick is one of our trainers, his experience relates directly to his NCDV colleague. Paula is a fellow trainer and in charge of compiling these
“For me working for NCDV is a vocation rather than a job. I feel privileged to work for NCDV, an organisation that provides a free