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    How do you make domestic abuse socially unacceptable?

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    How do you make domestic abuse socially unacceptable?


    That’s a question I hear many times and I often quote comparisons with the massive decline in smoking and the overwhelming take-up of wearing seatbelts.  It seems to me they offer the best place to start taking on board what’s necessary.

    The only way to get onto the road to eradicating domestic abuse is firstly to make it socially unacceptable. But how do you achieve that?

    I see there are four main requirements that need to be in place:

    1. Educating children

    2. Legislation

    3. Empowering victims

    4. Educating (reforming) abusers

    Each of these is, by itself, a massive task to embark on and each is worthy of much discussion.  Moreover, all of them require not only big financial commitments but also patience, time and committed individuals to champion long-term projects.

    Educating the children may take a generation or two; legislation, as we have seen with the DA Bill, will take years to become fully effective; empowering victims will require trust and specific resources; and to educate/reform abusers will need substantial investment to create programmes of help for them – as with any other type of addict.

    All this needs a government with true foresight – in other words, a horizon set well beyond the next election. That is where we come to the real stumbling block.

    Making domestic abuse socially unacceptable is the only way to eradicate it.  Simply saying ‘domestic abuse must stop’ is not good enough: we need to create a sea-change in society’s attitude.

    The domestic abuse support sector has recently received more funding than ever before to support victims: this must continue but the only way we are going to bring about eradication is by sustained investment in a four-pronged attack.

    I have worked in this sector for nearly 13 years and I have met many passionate and committed individuals. What we need now is someone with the skills, vision – and clout – to develop the four fundamental requirements which will make domestic abuse socially unacceptable.

    Mark Groves, Chief Executive

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    By Fiona Bawden, Times Online (8th May 2007)

    “Steve Connor, a student at City Law School, is a man on a mission. Six years ago he was a fairly directionless 27-year-old. Today, as well as taking the Bar Vocational Course, he is chairman of the National Centre for Domestic Violence, a ground-breaking organisation that he dragged into existence after a friend could not get legal help to protect her from an abusive partner.

    Connor’s route to the Bar has been circuitous. In 2001 he returned from a year in Australia (he says that he would not dignify describing it as a gap year), and took a job as a process server in South London. The job (“I just saw it advertised in the paper”) was not quite as dull as it sounds. On one occasion he was threatened with a machete, on another, he was nearly stabbed by a man he had arranged to meet on Clapham Common to serve with a non-molestation order: “He’d seemed really friendly on the phone…”

    The turning point in his life came when a friend, who was being abused by her partner, turned to him for support. Connor went with her to the police. She did not want to press criminal charges so the police suggested that she visit a solicitor to take out a civil injunction. “We must have seen 12 solicitors in a morning. We just went from one to the next to the next to the next. Everyone was very eager to help until we sat down to fill in the forms for the legal aid means test,” he says. The woman, who had a small child, did not qualify for public funding. But, Connor says, her financial situation as it appeared on paper did not bear any relation to her financial situation in reality. “She had a part-time job and she and her partner owned their home. Yet she didn’t have any money. Her boyfriend was very controlling and controlled all the money; he kept the chequebooks and didn’t let her have access to the bank account.”

    The injustice of the situation got under Connor’s skin. “I just couldn’t believe that there was no help available to people who did not qualify for public funds but could not afford to pay.

    I just kept feeling that this must be able to be sorted if only someone would address it.”That “someone” turned out to be him.

    In 2002, thanks entirely to Connor’s doggedness, the London Centre for Domestic Violence was formed. It started out with him and a friend, but is now a national organisation, covering 27 counties, and has helped approximately 10,000 victims last year to take out injunctions against their partners.

    NCDV now has nine full-time staff, 12 permanent volunteers and has trained over 5000 law and other students as McKenzie Friends to accompany unrepresented victims into court. We have also trained over 8000 police officers in civil remedies available regarding domestic violence. The National Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV) has branches in London, Guildford and Manchester and is on track to have branches in 16 areas within the next two years.

    NCDV specialises exclusively in domestic violence work and could be characterised as a cross between McDonald’s and Claims Direct. The high degree of specialisation means that its processes are streamlined: clients can be seen quickly and the work is done speedily and cheaply. “Sometimes, we will have one of our trained McKenzie Friends at a court doing 10 applications in one day,” Connor says.

    Clients are not charged for the service. NCDV staff take an initial statement: clients who qualify for legal aid are referred to a local firm; those that don’t get free help from the centre itself. It runs on a shoestring, heavily reliant on volunteers and capping staff salaries at £18,000 a year.

    Steve expects to qualify as a barrister this summer and hopes that having a formal legal qualification will give the centre added clout. “We are already acknowledged as experts and consulted at a high level, so I thought it would be helpful if I could back that up by being able to say I’m a barrister,” he says. He is just about to complete a one-year full-time BVC course at the City Law School (formerly the Inns of Court Law School) and, all being well, should be called to the Bar in July. Although Connor sees his long-term future as a barrister, he says that he has no immediate plans to practise. “I want to get NCDV running on a fully national level. Then I may take a step back and have a career at the Bar.”