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Hi, I’m Lucy Power

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Hi, I’m Lucy Power

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I am an ex Social Worker, a qualified and professionally credentialed personal and business Coach and I am extensively trained and experienced in Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy. I am successful, happy, grounded and I choose my life with intention and autonomy.

As an expert in psychological process and personal recovery I plan to write and film a series of sessions which will shine a light on the experience of people living through or recovering from domestic abuse. I am doing this in partnership with NCDV, who provide a vital service to those in need of protection by providing a fast and free emergency injunction service regardless of financial circumstances, race, gender or sexual orientation, a service they will continue to innovate to provide.

I understand. I have also experienced horrendous physical and emotional domestic abuse when I was young and isolated by the perpetrator from anyone who loved me.

I won’t detail what I went through. I know you don’t need to read or to know that. What I do very much want you to know is that whenever I mention my experience to anyone at all, they look bewildered and confused and ask me how on earth I allowed this to happen to me. They see me as I am, powerful and present and they see people who are abused as powerless.

My answer is always this, being abused happens in the dark and shame, collusion, secrecy, and an illusion of normalcy grows in this place too.

I know you are powerful too and I know that you may not know how you got into this place because it happened so incrementally and without your explicit knowing or indeed your consent.

I will touch on all the aspects of our relationship with ourselves and others which helped me to move toward how I am today. These include attending to our mental health and resilience, recognising normality, healing well emotionally as well as physically, building self-love and compassion, trusting ourselves and others again, understanding and managing our emotions,  managing drugs, alcohol and other addictive substances, understanding ‘good enough’ in parenting, moving away from shame, supporting ourselves physically and emotionally and other aspects of self-love, care and recovery which feel relevant and useful.

For now, I want to leave you with this; ‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.’ (Jung).  I invite you to read my words and watch my short films as a way of bringing your awareness and understanding of what has happened or is happening for you and / or your loved ones into the light of your conscious awareness. I invite you to give yourself the support, love and care you deserve, and I invite you to get the help you need now and forever. You are important and you deserve all good things.

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I am an ex Social Worker, a qualified and professionally credentialed personal and business Coach and I am extensively trained and experienced in Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy. I am successful, happy, grounded and I choose my life with intention and autonomy.
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By Fiona Bawden, Times Online (8th May 2007)

“Steve Connor, a student at City Law School, is a man on a mission. Six years ago he was a fairly directionless 27-year-old. Today, as well as taking the Bar Vocational Course, he is chairman of the National Centre for Domestic Violence, a ground-breaking organisation that he dragged into existence after a friend could not get legal help to protect her from an abusive partner.

Connor’s route to the Bar has been circuitous. In 2001 he returned from a year in Australia (he says that he would not dignify describing it as a gap year), and took a job as a process server in South London. The job (“I just saw it advertised in the paper”) was not quite as dull as it sounds. On one occasion he was threatened with a machete, on another, he was nearly stabbed by a man he had arranged to meet on Clapham Common to serve with a non-molestation order: “He’d seemed really friendly on the phone…”

The turning point in his life came when a friend, who was being abused by her partner, turned to him for support. Connor went with her to the police. She did not want to press criminal charges so the police suggested that she visit a solicitor to take out a civil injunction. “We must have seen 12 solicitors in a morning. We just went from one to the next to the next to the next. Everyone was very eager to help until we sat down to fill in the forms for the legal aid means test,” he says. The woman, who had a small child, did not qualify for public funding. But, Connor says, her financial situation as it appeared on paper did not bear any relation to her financial situation in reality. “She had a part-time job and she and her partner owned their home. Yet she didn’t have any money. Her boyfriend was very controlling and controlled all the money; he kept the chequebooks and didn’t let her have access to the bank account.”

The injustice of the situation got under Connor’s skin. “I just couldn’t believe that there was no help available to people who did not qualify for public funds but could not afford to pay.

I just kept feeling that this must be able to be sorted if only someone would address it.”That “someone” turned out to be him.

In 2002, thanks entirely to Connor’s doggedness, the London Centre for Domestic Violence was formed. It started out with him and a friend, but is now a national organisation, covering 27 counties, and has helped approximately 10,000 victims last year to take out injunctions against their partners.

NCDV now has nine full-time staff, 12 permanent volunteers and has trained over 5000 law and other students as McKenzie Friends to accompany unrepresented victims into court. We have also trained over 8000 police officers in civil remedies available regarding domestic violence. The National Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV) has branches in London, Guildford and Manchester and is on track to have branches in 16 areas within the next two years.

NCDV specialises exclusively in domestic violence work and could be characterised as a cross between McDonald’s and Claims Direct. The high degree of specialisation means that its processes are streamlined: clients can be seen quickly and the work is done speedily and cheaply. “Sometimes, we will have one of our trained McKenzie Friends at a court doing 10 applications in one day,” Connor says.

Clients are not charged for the service. NCDV staff take an initial statement: clients who qualify for legal aid are referred to a local firm; those that don’t get free help from the centre itself. It runs on a shoestring, heavily reliant on volunteers and capping staff salaries at £18,000 a year.

Steve expects to qualify as a barrister this summer and hopes that having a formal legal qualification will give the centre added clout. “We are already acknowledged as experts and consulted at a high level, so I thought it would be helpful if I could back that up by being able to say I’m a barrister,” he says. He is just about to complete a one-year full-time BVC course at the City Law School (formerly the Inns of Court Law School) and, all being well, should be called to the Bar in July. Although Connor sees his long-term future as a barrister, he says that he has no immediate plans to practise. “I want to get NCDV running on a fully national level. Then I may take a step back and have a career at the Bar.”